Taking back Control of my life.
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From a young age, I was always a big lad, probably bigger than I should which resulted in some bullying at school amongst other things. Since turning 16, I've worked for our family company, and with that comes long hours. Early days and late nights sometimes. In 2020 I moved out of home and went to live solo in my own flat. Because of the late hours, tiredness, and a mix of laziness I got takeaways daily. Most days I'd not eat or drink during the day, then go to the takeaway & shop on my way home and go berserk. Probably intaking 3-4000 calories in a 1-2 hour period max. This has continued from 2020 until 2025.
In August 2025, I attended my first therapy session for my mental wellbeing. We didn't actually touch too much on my weight but more other things, and how the weight sort of made those other things worse. We spoke at length about my mental state and how my weight plays a part in it. not all of it, but a big part nonetheless.
I came out of my first session feeling like I'd wasted £50 and I was no better off. the next day I woke up with a fresh mindset. I sought the opinion of my friend Jack who is a good friend and had previously been a PT. I expressed how losing weight is hard for me with my hours, and the toll the weight takes on my body and mind. I'm exhausted after a 10 hour day where most people are still fine for many hours. We did some research and we came to the conclusion that if I cut out the bulk of my sweets & chocolate my Takeaways could continue for the time being. I went back to the Sunday and inputted everything I'd eaten for the day and found I had in taken 5708 calories. 2127 calories being Chocolate/Cake. So I got weighed, and weighed in at 29 stone. We used a calorie calculator to provide me with a daily allowance, which was roughly 3,500 calories per day to maintain weight. I set out on the challenge of to cut 1000 calories off per day to hopefully lose 2 pound per week or there abouts. I started to miss the chocolate so we made weekends maintain days, so I can have a bit extra of what I might miss. This is a slow method, it's for people who want to lose weight but can't face the gym's or can't afford PT's. I've been doing this now around 6 months, apart from a couple of weeks I had off at Christmas and I've lost 24 pounds total. I could have lost more if I change certain things, but I'm happy at the rate it is coming off at the moment.
Life being Overweight
Dental Care - I struggle with my Dental care. I've phoned 6-7 dentists local to me who won't see me due to being 29 stone. their chair weight limit is 22 stone for pretty much all of them. This has led to poor maintenance of my teeth, teeth breaking, infections and more. luckily for me I found a dentist in Staffordshire UK who would see me. it's private so it comes with an expensive bill, but it's worth it to get my teeth repaired and back on the right path.
Going Out - Going out for me is hard. it's not something I've ever been comfortable with, and as I've gotten bigger it's gotten worse. I'd actually sit in the car for sometimes up to an hour, trying to build the courage to go in. I don't go anywhere during the weekend, apart from some shops and work and maybe a snooker club.
Self Conscious - being self conscious isn't nice, it makes everything difficult, and makes every eye roll, stare, glares feel more personal even if they aren't looking at me. But even if I start to believe I'm wrong, I've had encounters with people who make you feel bad for being the weight you are. Back in 2023 our Business was up for an award and I needed a suit. something I dreaded as i usually wear baggy clothing to make me feel better. At the suit shop I was made to feel bad about my size. making comments like "I don't think we will have anything as big as you mate". Not even entertaining seeing to my needs, just pointed me in the direction of a shelf and said "those are the biggest we do, we don't do any bigger". They might not seem as hurtful comments but trust me, as a self conscious obese person it's crippling to hear. Another instance was a lady who seen me from the NHS for a dental emergency. I stressed to the operator I needed somewhere that could facilitate me and they sent me somewhere, where again it was a 22 stone max limit.
the Lady working was very rude to me. asked why i'd come despite not being able to be lifted up on the chair. I expressed that I told the operator this, but the whole time she did some temporary work to my teeth she was constantly commenting on my weight, saying I need to lose weight, saying I need to see a doctor.
Not something you need to hear off a dentist..
My Plan - I've been considering doing this for a few months now, but I have finally got round to it. I've worked out for years, on and off. doing several months then giving up because the regime is to extreme & tiring. Also on these regimes I have given up everything I love like Fizzy Pop, Sweets, Chocolate, Take Aways.
Now my plan once I am feeling better and more agile is to start making food myself and improve my life that bit more. This takes time though, being obese makes everything harder, My back hurts just by standing up for extended periods of time. My body aches despite my young age due to what I have put it through for years.
This is exactly why most overweight people don't stick at this sort of thing long. The way I'm doing this however gets me losing weight with no real exercise, or effort. it's just simply cutting down my calorie intake.
It's amazing how many calories are in certain items. I think some people are oblivious to how many calories are in certain bad items. But also how to cut out some calories by making some small changes.
In my first few blog posts I'm going to detail my eating, drinking, If I do any exercise and then put my weigh in stickers up so you can see what my progress is weekly.
The Principles Behind Every Bit
Small Wins, Big Impact
I believe that extreme changes are rarely sustainable. True transformation happens through the small, daily choices that eventually become second nature.
Mindset First
Weight loss is as much about the mind as it is the body. By healing our relationship with food and self-image, we ensure the physical results actually stay.
Encouragement Over Guilt
The journey back to yourself should be filled with grace. I prioritize honesty and encouragement over rigid rules and perfectionistic standards.
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